People often mistake sophistication for elegance. While it is possible to be both, you can be sophisticated without being elegant and elegant without being sophisticated. Elegance is graciousness in action. Possessing a sort of confident simplicity. While Sophistication comes from experience and knowledge.
A lot of us have been taught that we shouldn’t be flirts, we shouldn’t be like that with men cuz it cheapens us and reduces our value, but I tell you, this is the most nonsense I’ve ever heard in my life. We were literally designed to flirt with each other, I watch it play out in nature over and over again so I have no idea why we create walls and build fences where we’re supposed to flow.
An elegant sophisticated flirt is refined, graceful, kind and mysterious. Here are a few ways you can learn to embody those qualities.
Send The Invitation.
98% of communication is nonverbal so utilize those statistics to your advantage. Eye contact, nice smiles, knowing looks, use them to plant small seeds that point to “I see you, and I know you see me as well”. Don’t be afraid to have a personality and also be willing to allow someone get to know you.
Avoid Over Sexualizing Yourself.
Your sexuality should never be your first offering, especially if you’re going into the game with a long term, high quality mentality. You are more than your body so cut down on the sexual subject matter.
Don’t Pursue, Let Him Come To You.
It never goes the way we want when we’re the ones doing the chasing cuz that’s not the design and that’s not our job description. Our job description is to rest confidently and comfortably in our Femininity and reciprocate graciously.
Show You Care, But Be Willing To Walk Away.
If you’re interested show it but that does not mean you forget who you are and become someone’s doormat. Have some dignity. You are that bitch. Never forget that.
Don’t Be Rude.
There’s not much to say about rudeness except that it is excessively and unnecessarily distasteful behavior to engage in. Instead, focus on your Feminine nurturing side and open yourself up.
Figure out who you are and what works for you and translate that into how you relate with the opposite sex. Remember practice makes progress. The more you practice, the better you get and the more rich and fun your life experience will be.
Keep in mind that the way you start out is how you’re going to end. So why don’t you take charge of the situation and steer it where you want it to go? Until next time.
Yours truly, Chalya.