Dating seems to be a struggle in our generation, I’m not exactly sure why cuz I think the principles that govern the dating world are more black and white than splattered with grey areas. But for some reason we deal in the greys. I guess humans just love the drama and want to complicate everything. Here are a few things that I think would go a long way in improving the quality of your dating relationships if you choose to apply them.
HE DOESN’T OWE YOU ANYTHING
This is the sort of entitlement that causes problems in dating relationships. You’re dating this person because you like them and want to get to know them and for the value they add to your life. Not because you’re looking for a meal ticket. Yes the man should be the provider but don’t feel entitled to it. I think women that feel entitled is usually cuz they can’t provide these things for themselves and rule of thumb states that if you can’t provide it for yourself don’t expect it from someone else.
GOODWILL BEGETS GOODWILL
Don’t take this as you do something so you can get something in return. No. That’s not what this is. Everything you do in a dating relationship should be authentic. This is just based of the principle that the universe is a mirror and what you give out to it is exactly what you will get back. So think about it like that instead.
NOD AND LISTEN
You need discernment to know when to fight battles and when to walk away, but most times it’s best to just nod and listen, no backbiting or one up-ing or pettiness. When you actively listen you’re better able to come up with solutions to problems rather than creat bigger problems from already existing ones.
If you are not okay with somethings I would suggest you make that clear from the get go. Men love to push, prod and do everything in their power to cross boundaries, so you have to set these from the start and make sure you stand by them cuz give a man an inch and he’ll buy the whole damn roll of measuring tape.
LET HIM FEEL LIKE A MAN WHEN HES WITH YOU
Don’t emasculate men. They cannot handle it and that’s a fact. There who’s are not built to withstand that, plus it will only plant a seed of discord in the relationship. You can take care of yourself? That’s great! But when you’re with him let him do it. Why not? What are you trying to prove? That you do t like being taken care of? Okay.
Are there any more things you know that I left out? Let me know in the comments below. Until next time.
Yours truly, Chalya.